On Monday my husband and I celebrated our 7th wedding anniversary. We're practically still just newlyweds, but in 7 years I've learned some things.
1. All decisions should be made together.
This isn't popular nowadays, but every time you consult with your spouse about the smaller things you're telling them you value their opinion and trust them.
2. Let it go.
And no, I'm not talking about Frozen. In our human nature we hang onto things. It's ridiculous and harmful. With every little thing I don't like, I could easily let it fester and become an issue, but it's better to let it go. But then, little things never bothered me anyway. ;)
3. Relive memories.
Once you have kids, things become less about each other. It's important to relive the fun memories....like eating tater tots late at night. Weird, but it's a fun memory we have so every now and then we stay up late and eat tater tots. Shared memories are beautiful. Don't forget them.
4. Put the other person first.
This is obvious, but so hard. If you know your wife prefers you to hang your coat up when you get home, then do it. If it bugs your husband that you hang your towel on the doorknob, then don't do it. And if you're working at it, but your spouse isn't, remember....let it go. Which leads me to the next thing I've learned.
5. Do the right thing without exception.
In any relationship, if one person is making the effort and the other one isn't, you tend to throw in the towel where your effort is concerned. But this isn't just any relationship. It's a covenant. And whether or not your spouse is working at it, you do the right thing. Because we all have to answer for our own actions. Just because someone else isn't doing what they should, that doesn't give us the right to give up on our end.
6. Never paint your spouse in a negative light.
It's easy, I think for females to do this without realizing it. We complain about dumb stuff that doesn't even really matter, but it's wrong. It's hard, being human and all, but it's something worth working on.
7. Keep an eye to the future.
Whether it's your finances, plans, goals, talk about the future together. And most importantly, talk about your spiritual future together. Make an effort to set spiritual goals for your relationship and family. Remember, a threefold cord is not easily broken.
I'm looking forward to another seven years and seeing our goals play out. It's been a blast and I'm thankful to be married to someone who also has a desire to be in Gods will.